There is, one can imagine very few among us that are attracted to creepy, old wrinkled flesh. What is the attraction of youth. The quest for the younger mate. Is attraction to beauty built into our psychological makeup? That volatile mix of desire, illusion and chemistry. And for some reason men appear more drawn to youth and beauty; something beyond ego-driven advertising messages and a wish to control the opposite sex in a power dynamic. To some psychologists who mix their expertise while dabbling in human evolution, it may be a universal impulse derived from evolutionary pressure for success in the reproductive department. Obviously, what is termed a “natural” attraction can run off the rails into some very dark zones. There are no shortage of Roman Polanski types.
There is a certain indignity when our attractiveness to the opposite sex is strained and reduced to our breeding and food/money-gathering potential. But, there is plausible validity to this theory. Definitely, a woman’s youth and appearance with a man’s power and status play important factors in mate selection; In addition to the so called exchange theory and its complementary, the persona theory.
( From Ines Ortega ) South American progressive writers such as Argentines Silvina Bullrich was one of the first to take Simone de Beauvoir theories and reformulate and reflect on some of the themes within the novel form. The narrative form, sometimes based on the notion of colnial subjection showed the precarity of the woman often in a perpetual and disheartening state of monetary and psychological dependence even among housewives of the upper classes. Bullrich invented the term “it’s majesty desire” and when this set of the majestic is present in both members of a couple, there establishes a form of legitimacy; without legitimacy its prostitution among other degrading associations.
Inevitably, Freud has to enter the bedroom with his premise of the human psyche theory of primary bisexuality. It poses the question of how can the male release passive libidinal impulses and avoiding dipping the toe into homosexual taboos. Bullrich, from what I gathered, has remarked about these wrenching vassal relationships. That is male hierarchy, top-down , regimented, pecking order structures such as corporate, military, and even religious orders which in sum, permit the articulation of passive drives such as blind faith, obedience and willingness to be controlled within a male-centric framework without the overtness of homosexual behavior. At least ostensibly since the human erotic charge positive/negative does short circuit from time to time.
Whether these greatly disparate age relationships such as the George Sorsos/Adriana Ferreyr public spat permit a jumping of the fence- or the shark- into uncharted waters is something rarely studied but makes some intuitive sense as a mutual form of escapism but to where is anyone’s guess; either into the zone of the Marquis de Sade, the ozone boxes of Wilhelm Reich or some rudimentary trans-humanism of Kurzweil. Who knows.
Oscar Wilde asserted that the first principle of aestheticism, is the now worn down argument that art serves no other purpose than to offer beauty. In Dorian Gray, beauty predominates, in that Wilde uses it to revitalize the wearied senses and as a means of escaping the jagged reality of the world. Hence Dorion becomes obsessed with beautiful things. Evidently, Wilde was correct in perceiving that in a society that exalts beauty almost as a core value, youth and physical attractiveness are valuable commodities. Like Dorion Gray, many if given the opportunity would give their soul for doses of youth.
The Superficial Nature of Society
Whether this is the superficial nature of society is a value judgement. But, a society that prizes beauty above all can be seen as a society founded on a love of surfaces.Which like Dorion and his rath
ony company, the quest for the handsome seduces one into the macabre workings involved in the realization of a type where desire is conflated with freedom; a freedom to discard morals without risk of censure. Its a powerful dynamic, one in which marketers to men manipulate through endowing products with an aura that equates the desire with that of substituting for a young mistress. …
A behavioral study confirmed this large sex difference (Clarke & Hatfield, 1989). Men and women experimenters approached total strangers on a college campus, and said »Hi, I’ve been noticing you around campus, and I find you very attractive.« Then they asked one of three questions: Would you go out on a date with me? Would you go back to my apartment with me? Would you have sex with me? The experimenters recorded the percentage who agreed to each request, and also any verbal comments they made….
…Of the women approached by the male experimenters, 50% agreed to go out on a date with him; 6% agreed to go back to his apartment; and 0% agreed to have sex. Some women who were asked for sex were insulted, and some thought is bizarre.
Of the men approached by the female experimenters, 50% agreed to go out on a date, similar to the women’s responses. However, 69% agreed to go back to her apartment. And 75% agreed to have sex with her. Of the men who declined the sexual request, some were apologetic, citing a prior commitment with parents of a fiancé. These sex differences
have been replicated in subsequent studies (see Buss, 2000, for a summary).
In summary, is quite apparent that men have evolved psychological mechanisms dedicated to solving the complex problems posed by success at short-term mating. These include a desire for sexual variety, the tendency to let little time elapse before seeking sexual intercourse, and the behavioral willingness to consent to sex with strangers. In addition,
men appear to lower their standards dramatically in the context of short-term mating (Buss & Schmitt, 1993); show a marked decrease in attraction to a sex partner immediately following sexual intercourse, perhaps to facilitate a hasty post-copulation departure (Haselton & Buss, 2001); report exaggerating the depth of their feelings to gain sexual
access (Buss, 1994); and report that they would have an extramarital affair if they knew that no one would find out (for reviews of this evidence, see Schmitt et al., 2001).
…Women’s Short-Term Mating Strategies Although the empirical evidence is clear that men, far more than women, have a great desire for a variety of sex partners, there is a problem – men could never have evolved such a desire in the absence of willing women (barring deception or forced intercourse). Indeed, mathematically, the mean number of sex partners for men and women must be identical, assuming an equal sex ratio in the population. Ever time a man has sex with a woman whom he has not previously had sex, a woman is simultaneously having sex with a man with whom she has never had sex.
Perhaps because the evolutionary logic for men having evolved a strong desire for sexual variety is so clear – namely, an increase in direct reproductive output – the evolutionary logic for women having evolved a short-term mating psychology has been relatively neglected.Read More:http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homepage/group/BussLAB/pdffiles/Human%20Mating%20Strategies.pdf